Relationships

  • Why We Love, Helen Fisher

  • Seven Principles for Making Relationships Work, John Gottman, Ph.D.

  • Social Intelligence, Daniel Goleman

  • And Baby Makes Three, John Gottman, Ph.D.

  • Getting the Love You Want, Harville Hendrix

  • Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love, Sue Johnson, Ph.D.

  • The Dance of Anger, Harriet Goldhor Lerner, Ph.D.

  • The Dance of Intimacy, Harriet Goldhor Lerner, Ph.D.

  • The New Rules of Marriage, Terrence Real, LICSW

  • US: Getting past your & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship, Terrence Real, LICSW

Parenting

  •  The Dandelion and the Orchid: Why Some Children Struggle and How All can Thrive, W. Thomas Boyce M.D.

  • The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are, Brene Brown

  • How to Talk so Kids will Listen and Listen so Kids will Talk, Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish

  • Why Love Matters: How Affection Shapes a Baby’s Brain, Sue Gerhardt

  • The Gardener and the Carpenter: What the New Science of Child Development Tells Us About the Relationship Between Parents and Children, Alison Gopnik

  • Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child, John Gottman, Ph.D.

  • Nurture the Nature, Michael Gurian

  • The Price of Privilege, Madeleine Levine, Ph.D,

  • The Blessings of a Skinned Knee, Wendy Mogel, Ph.D

  • Reviving Ophelia: Saving the lives of Adolescent Girls, Mary Pipher, Ph.D.

  • The Shelter of Each Other, Mary Pipher, Ph.D.

  • Parenting From the Inside Out, Daniel Siegel, MD

  • The Whole Parent: How to Become a Terrific Parent Even if You Didn’t Have One, Debra Wesselmann

Trauma

  • Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors: Overcoming Internal Self-Alienation, Janina Fisher, Ph.D.

  • Transforming the Living Legacy of Trauma: A Workbook for Survivors and Therapists, Janina Fisher, Ph.D.

  • Trauma and Recovery, Judith Hermann

  • Healing Trauma: A Pioneering Program for Restoring the Wisdom of Your Body, Peter Levine, PhD 

  • The Body Remembers, Babette Rothschild

  • The Mindful Way through Depression: Freeing Yourself From Chronic Unhappiness, Mark Williams, John Teasdale, Zindel Segal, and Jon Kabat-Zinn

  • Getting Through The Day: Strategies for Adults Hurt as Children, Nancy J. Napier, MFT, PhD

  • The Body Keeps the Score: The Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma, Bessel van der Kolk

EMDR

  • Transforming Trauma: EMDR, Laurel Parnell

The Brain

  • Train Your Mind, Change Your Brain: How a New Science Reveals Our Extraordinary Potential to Transform Ourselves, Sharon Begley

  • The Mindful Brain: Reflection and Attunement in the Cultivation of Well-Being, Daniel Siegel, MD

  • The Brain that Changes Itself; Stories of Personal Triumph fro the Frontiers of Brain Science, Norman Doidge, MD, PhD.

  • Mindsight: The New Science of Personal Transformation, Daniel J. Siegel, MD

  • Buddah’s Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love & Wisdom, Rick Hanson, Ph.D., with Richard Mendius, MD

I am a part of every place I have been: the path to the brook; the New York streets and my “short cuts” through the Metropolitan Museum. All the places I have ever walked, talked, slept, have changed and formed me.
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I am still every age that I have been. Because I was once a child, I am always a child. Because I was a searching adolescent, given to moods and ecstasies, these are still part of me, and always will be. Because I was once a rebellious student, there is and always will be in me the student crying out for reform.This does not mean that I ought to be trapped or enclosed in any of these ages, the perpetual student, the delayed adolescent, the childish adult, but that they are in me to be drawn on; to forget is a form of suicide; my past is part of what makes the present Madeleine and must not be denied or rejected or forgotten.Far too many people misunderstand what putting away childish things means, and think that forgetting what it is like to think and feel and touch and smell and taste and see and hear like a three-year-old or a thirteen-year-old or a twenty-three year-old means being grownup. When I’m with these people I, like the kids, feel that if this is what it means to be a grownup, then I don’t ever want to be one.Instead of which, if I can retain a child’s awareness and joy, and be fifty-one, then I will really learn what it means to be grownup.

— Madeleine L’Engle, Circle of Quiet